Becoming Kindred Blog

I like you


He was next to me; near enough to tap his foot with my own, but far enough that I could stare at him through my hair without him feeling it. The table between us held popcorn, wine, and the pipe I had purchased for him that first Father’s Day. A small bonfire crackled before us as the moon hung low over the lake.

It was then, within that space of moonlight and easy conversation, tobacco smoke and August dew, that I caught myself thinking:
“I like you…!”

The words slipped from my heart before I could stop them, then crept to my mouth to stir a slow grin. They weren’t spoken and there was no need to explain; but they were felt and savored and tucked away where things of Goodness and Hope nestle within me for days and life.

I like you….
I like you!

Yes, we have been married for years (we’re nearing a decade!), and yes we’ve shared “I love you’s” for forever-and-a-half, but there is something startling and fantastic that occurs when you can look at the person next to you and thoroughly, honestly, like them.  From what I’ve experienced, relationships are woven with conflict and moments and challenges and tears and vows and tasks and…all the days in and out and in between. But in that day when we see that other person and love them deeply enough to enjoy who they are, as they were created to be, and to hope with them for all that they will be,
that is a treasure.

That is discovering kinship,
becoming kindred,
with your lover.

I’m crazy over this man (and there’s a whole other blog post to come in that I’m sure!).
I like him (and that’s just weird!).
I’m learning to love him (and that’s a mystery!).
And I’m in awe that the Creator gives humanity a chance to discover relationship and Reflection with each other, in this way.

Thanks be to God!


Dea’ is a mama to boys, a former college educator, a writer, and a ‘simple-green-living’ home-maker. Currently residing in small-town Alberta while her husband practices as a medic in the north, Dea’ can be found chasing her boys and backyard chickens while experimenting with whole foods and (attempting to) break into new areas of writing and other creative things. You are welcome to follow her family and story at wholedei.