It’s been raining for the past couple of days and a busy work week for Dan (does starting a new business always mean that your husband comes to bed at insane hours like 3 am?) so today I am just feeling tired. I took some time this afternoon to head into town to the cafe where I spent some time with a cup of tea, pen, and paper. It was nice but as a result I have several half finished blog posts about 1) When people tell me that I am busy, 2) Gender and Roles; thoughts from Lego, 3) a term I just learned in relation to food and health; “orthorexia nervosa“, and 4) faith as a child sees it. A couple of these are a little on the controversial side and I am not much into controversy in the world of social media but they are topics that have been churning in my brain these past rainy days. I like a good discussion and I have plenty of opinions but they do change and/or expand regularly. As soon as one’s words are out there in the world wide web, they are hard to take back. So unless I can really succinctly express my thoughts, they may never leave the pages of my note book. I do want to thank everyone who shared their thoughts on my last post, I really enjoyed reading each comment *I always do, but it was really great to hear the dreams and thoughts of others who I care about.
In other news, I distinctly did NOT like being a farm girl this evening when my goat Hazel decided to plant her back foot squarely in the bucket of milk. Her poor choice saw the entire bucket being dumped out save for the bit that I gave to the cats. What a waste.
And finally, a last thought before taking myself off to enjoy a cup of tea and a cupcake (store bought) with my dear husband. Dan has a graduation class photo shoot this weekend so he needed my help to set up. This picture was one of the test shots:
Wishing you all a good night, where ever you are!
I totally understand not writing about things to avoid controversy. I kept my blog private for a long time for that very reason. Over time I started to “come out” because I found that having an online identity allowed me to find other like-minded women and have a community that I would otherwise never find. While I don’t think this sort of online “relationship” is as good as one that is in-person, I have never before been able to find so many women with whom to discuss things I hold near and dear.
I’ve gradually come to the realization that people generally follow the blogs of those they agree with and I’m unlikely to attract a great deal of controversy no matter what I write…though I have taken the precaution of not letting either my parents or my in-laws know I have a blog. My in-laws in particular tend to take things personally and write nastygrams for totally benign behaviors. But the great anonymous world of the internet? Knock-on-wood…no troubles yet. 🙂
And I just came across orthorexia nervosa the other day when working on my continuing education requirements…though the wikipedia article stated it was not medically recognized, it was on a module that a large proportion of the family physicians in the country will eventually be completing so I guess it’s on the verge of becoming something medical. I just wonder…to what extent is it in the eyes of the beholder? There’s a joke in medicine that an alcoholic is someone who drinks more than you…I wonder if orthorexia nervosa would be similar? There certainly would be a continuum.
I agree with the above comment. I would love to hear all your thoughts on all of that. And I LOVED the picture! I feel that way too often…just close my eyes for one second!:)And with the comment above I have to say I have three friends here who would meet all those standards but in their eyes they would answer “no” to it changing their lifestyle for ill or judging others or such…they really don’t understand how much they talk about it and how much it affects their relationships. In fact I sent the questionnaire to one asking her if she would answer it…I know- audacious…but in the end helpful if she ends up changing her perspective on herself and breaking away from so much control…the best step is the awareness step. I just feel sad as sometimes they do not see why people avoid conversations… But I guess we all have those things- for me it is my blunt honesty and how it accidentally hurts people. I’m working on that. Sometimes I think I am being so kind and thoughtful but others don’t. I’m working on staying my Aspie self yet still being aware and if I notice it hurts to talk through it. Tough stuff. Life is messy but I think I am ok with that:) People like you help who are willing to be honest too in a kind thought out way. I need to take some tips!:)
Oh and that gal responded to the questions with every single one being no and a reason why it was no. I found that interesting. She summed it up by just being healthy. Yet all she talks about with me is food and totes her healthier choices everywhere. It really hurts me and others who try to be hospitable. I asked another friend who knows her and my hubby if I was way off base in thinking she has this and they both replied that they would answer yes to every question minus one for her… But you know if she is aware of the condition and dies not believe she struggles – it is not my job to convince her. It’s my job to love her and gently point out when she continually talks about food choices or weight. It’s not cut and dry but I found it an interesting example of clear denial. But denial is a legitimate phase too and I love her immensely and she puts up with whatever denials I have so…But thanks for this. It was fascinating and now that I understand it as an illness I will be more patient and understanding. Before it was a bit annoying hurtful and came across haughty. Now I know they don’t mean any of that and I should hurt for her struggle. Understanding is key. Thanks for enlightening me!;)
What business are you starting up? We just started a new one (construction) this week. It’s so exciting!
Dan is getting his Photography & Graphic Design business up and going. He has been busy lately which is great but with his other job has a lot to keep up with. It is exciting although a little stressful:)